Online Dating in Thailand

How to Get A Date on the Internet

“Looking for a relationship?”

Tired of waiting for “THE” soul mate that will brighten up your life? Can he or she truly exist in this life? Would you ever stop looking for “THE” one?

First things first, ask yourself, “Who are you really seeking? A pen pal or a friend? (to virtually exchange with and talk to) or is it a true soul mate? (harder to find) or a life partner? (to build a future with) or is it simply a lover? Or a one-night stand? (for serious lust and excitement)”.

The next question that logically pops up is what to do if there is a response, “Are you just going to stay behind your computer waiting and freaking out or will you stand up and go the whole nine yards to achieve your goal?”

If you choose the former, then go back to square one and start again, you missed the point and you’re a wimp not serious in achieving your goal but if you decide to pursue, read on...

Internet has now been the in-thing for the last few years and effectively eases your quest for romance, love and the lot. IT helps everyone from Asian to Western backgrounds to break the ice and make their connections. If you are now looking for a relationship with Asians, you might be wondering how this can pan out via IT, because Asians, unlike Westerners are well unique and abounded cross-cultural gaps in culture and lifestyle, especially if you are seeking a Thai.

Thinking of searching here are a few tips.

1. Register for free on dating websites. This is easy! Thousands of websites are free membership. Register and post your profile, your photo galleries and your classified ads (real ones don’t be shy).

2. Make up online personal ads. This is the great way to meet your dates having everything in common. But what are you going to write in there? What qualities of your date are you looking for? What qualities do you bring to the relationship? What are your hobbies, what do you indulge in? Be honest about who you are and write the ads with conversational style, never being sexually explicit.

3. Read the online personal ads and write an introduction/contact letter. A reflection of your personality will reveal your interest into what you are searching in a relationship.

4. Communicate/chat online being your normal self and be ready, have an open minded attitude. It builds up a good relationship if you have EXCITING, INTERESTING and FUN conversation. For example, you could try being cool in language using RAP words to be fun such as “Yo, what’s up?” but don’t go over board for the whole conversation as your date will think you are a freak and you will lose out. Using a cool profile name like “NICE GUY” as your screen name generates interest and probably land more dates. Remember you like everybody else are gullible be street smart in your approach.

5. Use a web cam, to have FUN. Most of your dates want to see how the person they are chatting up to looks like. Handsome? Ugly? Sexy? Old? Young? It is as close to a face-to-face meeting you will ever get. If you strike you strike.

If you think you are ready to show your face to attract more dates then get a cam now from Pantip they are cheap and easy to install. But don’t forget, do not get naked in front of the cam yet, you will definitely burn out on the first pass if you do.

For inexperienced/first-hand users male or female, unavoidable mistakes and disasters will probably happen. Be aware of the following “DO NOT”.

1. Send a message like a whole essay. Keep it short to a couple topics. Straight to the point.
2. Say the same old thing your dates have received from thousands of people. That’s BORING and you will be pegged from day one.
3. Be self-depreciative talking about your hardships in life. You will surely be pegged and a goner, the word will get around.
4. Show off like “blah blah blah” talking about yourself, your job, your status, your education. Let your dates discover who you are gradually. Mysterious and interesting!
5. Get on the sex wagon unless that is in a nutshell what you are seeking. There are a multitude of specialized sites to go to. If your point is to find a serious relationship be discrete.

Useful website links below are like good medicine and can enlighten your heart and assist you in your quest for meeting new and exciting people perhaps dates, a soul mate or the next Mr. or Mrs. Right.

www.asianeuro.com – where to meet your dates from Asians to Westerners

www.thailandsinglesnetwork.com – where to find 10 more dating sites

www.girldatingtips.com – where to find more tips and advice about online dating

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Honeymoon Time

“How to keep passion and relationships alive”

Speaking of this month’s theme of “travel”, what’s truly popped up for our relationship column is a sweet honey + moon, and you can absorb the romance of its “HONEYMOON” while this is a part of your marriage/relationships life. Actually you can taste the sweet of “honey”, I mean a real taste (How do you like sweet? Is it too sweet for you?), but you can’t certainly taste or chew on “moon” (while it is shinning at night in the far horizon). What you can do with it is just feel and look at its beauty (In fact, the real moon is ugly). Then under the moonlight in the middle of the night, the romance is just around you. It might be sad for those who are single, if they probably have to imagine beyond and beyond of all romance with someone (like dreaming), but do not go deeply too sad while romance and sweet can finally occur WHEN they actually found “THE ONE”, and they won’t feel lonely anymore.

When two people are in the same circle of love called “Destiny”, they fall in love. They found their soul mate and finally got married. Thus life will be changing to the next step of relationships which is “marriage”. See what will happen after marriage? Now, when we came up with the topic of Honeymoon, we thought this would be an exciting and luscious issue on how honeymoon can keep passion and relationships alive. Is this for real? Come discover with us… newlyweds… read on…

Wedding bell is ringing. Wedding song is sweet and melodious. Two hearts are linked together. Once you say “I do”, your life is going to be wrapped up with the word of “marriage”. Then once you step in, you can’t look back. This is concerning about life, love, relationships and family, and “honeymoon” is a part of them as the celebration of LOVE as well as a new beginning of life. For newlyweds, they might feel nervous because this is likely a new experience… this is true when there is lots of excitement during the honeymoon trip. Excitement begins since they start an engine and drive away after the wedding. It is the first and good start how to keep love and passion alive and still on for each other. Their honeymoon can be the most perfect moment ever. For those who wait, like one year gone, the desire and passion is probably less excited even when they start their trip. However, once honeymoon time comes, you can taste the best of it to keep passion and relationships excited and alive, but how? We discover that there are some typical and ideal recommendations you might adapt to your honeymoon experience…

1. Pick the best honeymoon spots of your dream. Hawaii? Bali? Phuket? Europe? Caribbean? Alaska? The best place means the best moment; it’s probably half true depending on what types of trip you are looking for. Best of all is to build up the feeling and emotion of love. Like if you go on Alaskan Cruise with the super cold weather, you can keep each other warm.

2. Prepare a trip and pack up your luggage. Remember this is your romantic trip, not just like “swinging” fun one. When we are talking about keeping passion and relationships “excited and alive” (stress on these two words), but don’t ever think on adventure theme like cycling trip. This is not about exercise or game. Who are going to be crazy cycling for a honeymoon trip across the country? Absolutely, it serves you guys with an excitement but at the end exhausted to death. Easier booking flight through airlines or travel agents. Do not forget accommodations, make sure the hotels good and clean. More importantly, pack up everything you need for the trip.

3. Once you are there, add as much as honey as you can during the conversation and feeling. It is not like sipping a cup of honey to start sweet talking, your heart will go on and your brain is swirling around. We are not considering honey as a kind of marijuana or weed. Honey is more than that in the way of its sweetness. As mentioned, you can taste the real honey, but in this case, forget about it. Real taste doesn’t make you feel sweet and nice in your talking. Try to think what the best word you can express to each other. Be aware of getting the whole conversation too greasy.

4. Push up more honeymoon activities. Gear up and accelerate your energy with lots of fun activities and fill up more romance during the trip. “Diving”, even snorkeling or scuba is one example of fun sport activities. Hold your love’s hand and dive in the sea to find the beautiful nature of underwater together. Out of the world much more fun when you go on a helicopter tour to check out the beauty of the world, recommendation should be during the night time. After the sun falls and the moon rises up, the evening starts with splendid atmosphere. It is time to chill out under the candle light. Dance in the rhythm of classical and soft music and then deepen passion while kissing under the moonlight.

5. Keep on your romance in the room. Don’t think too much. We aren’t leading you to a sexual issue much, as that is your personal after the wedding. Then the evening is over, and it is bed time. Carry your bride to the room (overweight bride had better carry groom instead). Close the doors and SURPRISE her with the decoration in the room like flower bunches all over the place and sprinkle rose’s leaves on bed (be careful if she is allergic to pollen. Sneezing!). Next is your private time…… we’d better off now.

These guides are just an ideal for honeymoon trip to keep your passion and relationships alive, we believe it does happen in reality of some couples, not just an imaginary or a dream. It might be a dream for those who are still single, but once they found Mr./Ms. Right, it won’t anymore. Yet, remember the most essential part to keep strong relationships is treat and understand each other very well. Though honeymoon is over, it doesn’t mean “I’m over you”. Relationships should stay alive and on and happy ending forever.

Have you ever seen “Just Married” and “50 First Dates”? Two must-see movies are in the contrast story of honeymoon. In fact, “Just Married”, starring by Ashton Kutcher and Brittany Murphy, is a romantic movie but the story is concerning about the worst honeymoon with less understanding of each other. As for “50 First Dates”, it is not all about honeymoon but the story was set in Hawaii which is ranged as one of world’s top 10 honeymoon spots. Drew Barrymoore and Adam Sandler made the most romantic movie ever. We’d like to encourage you to go grab the movies yourself. Watch and enjoy the movie.

Then to assist you pick a perfect honeymoon spot, we did some research from the CNN’s website. We discovered the world’s 10 best honeymoon spots based on Modern Bride Magazine, updated June 8, 2005: 1. Hawaii 2. Italy 3. Tahiti 4. Anquilla 5. Fiji 6. St. Lucia 7. Mexico 8. St. Barths 9. Jamaica 10. France. Now, it is your choice and chance to make the most amazing honeymoon and keep passion and relationships excited and alive. This is also the moment that might happen once in a lifetime, especially for women, why don’t you make it as much impressive as possible?

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BAR-LOVE-LINKS (.COM?)

“Is there a true love at the bar?”

“Are you like a computer nerd living behind the fantasy and very fond of online love?” Probably someone popped up this question to you. Then you realize this quite gets you that we are introducing you a new dating site. Feel exciting, you quickly type in “www.bar-love-link.com” in the URL path, you wait for a while… with your heart beating faster and immediately you are directed to… a “can not find the server” page! Disappointed… how could that happen? You did try once again and again with hope, but still nothing. Okay, don’t be panic… just stay calm and we’re about to get you the reason in a minute.

First we must admit that it wasn’t that easy to write a relationship column, but after having been writing this for months, we discovered that there are so many, many things to write about. It is just all fun to talk about it. So right then, one idea that accidentally clicked through and flew into my brain, of course it’s related to this month’s theme “Entertainment”... is all about bar – a get-together place for nightlife lovers - we believe this is another fun issue you all would love to read about. Thus we brought this topic “BAR-LOVE-LINKS” up for you guys, beloved readers who love to hang out and hook up at night to let go all pressure you had in a day, now let’s take out what in the blanket for the time being. For now, this is not just like a thailovelinks.com site you may feel familiar with. But isn’t that fun since we did GET you at the beginning, right?

Some of you might experience this kind of relationships from a bar yourself since the first day you set one foot down in Bangkok. Or some love to go to the bar at dark three times a week but with different reasons. Relax and fun. Hang out and get drunk. Parties. Dating or just look around. Business-related… and so on. Somehow, whatever reason is, you may once hit your target who might be “THE ONE” for you after the midnight has gone. Then you may think who is truly “THE ONE”? Guys, don’t get confused… we are now talking partly of Mr./Ms. Right and partly of Mr./Ms. Fun. Concentrate your mind and ponder through the answer yourself of “What kind of relationships are you truly looking for (especially from the bar)?” Once you get to the bar, there are actually two types of relationships you can hunt for, either a true love (only a few) or a one-night stand (more expected) in different terms of fun and seriousness – the rule of “a true love” is much applied to the term of seriousness while “a one-night stand” is more like for fun and nothing to be serious about. There’s nothing much to say about these as it is a truth.

Then the next question practically dropped in line is, “Is there a true love at the bar (or just a one-night stand)?” Would it be possible if both be like 2-in-1 as shampoo and conditioner in the same bottle? Okay, you go to the bar and meet some OH! HOT and SEXY chicks/guys who suddenly turn you on or even burn your heart. You bring in all flirting technique and score the point (s) throughout the night, right? You wake up in the next morning and discover how good he/she was in bed, later on you find them gorgeous, and you can never ever get them out of your mind. Finally you two are head over heel in love. But well so this may seem idealistic for you all, especially playboys/playgirls, and we bet this can happen for 1 out of 100 in real life. Perhaps it can, with just a few couples who finally say “We do” and their life will never be the same again.

Listen, guys… before you get the answer for yourself, let’s go through seven main (true) principles of fun nightlife lovers, and then look at yourself whether these are truly you - a young tiger (both sexes) who loves to hunt for victims and beat the game…

P1 - Fun in and Serious out. Some of my girlfriends who love playing around always say that “Just for fun, nothing serious”. That’s probably the quote for all folks at the bar where they come for having fun drinking, dancing, chatting, screaming, and getting crazy like sometimes going naked (like the American “Girl Gone Wild” show). Some may be luckier than others in that they are fortunate to hook up with SO HOT chicks or guys. But whether who go in first, all they need to remember is to simply let all the “FUN” part in and throw the “SERIOUS” part out. IF you switch these two parts and accept jealousy in, we can tell that you’ll really get a problem… give a credit to the first start of a true love though.

P2 – Sweet talk. This is quite players’ characters. They love HONEY and SUGAR. We believe they drink honey instead of water… perhaps 8 glasses of honey a day. Isn’t that true, guys? You are all talkative, but in a sweet and slow way mingled with the concept of “slow but sure”, and do not get too rush like you drop a bomb and blow out your chance away. So you apply this sweet tactic until you’re sure that that HOT one was fell into your honey trap. On the other hand, when you run to some girl/guy and you feel awkward and nervous talking to him or her every time you meet them, it’s then time to check up your heart rate and true feeling.

P3 – Anyone’s invited. “Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?” Who cares this yes/no question? Just let it go. It is a flirting game, and anyone’s invited. Playboys or playgirls can pick up whoever they meet at the bar each night. Each night, each day comes with each new faces… is excitedly a new challenge. Forget about staying with the same person every day and night. That’s not real them.

P4 – Secret truth. This is the rule that most of playboys and playgirls always follow. Truth of their love life is never revealed; it was a secret when they met a new hot fire who already melted their heart… to death. Then a new game just started! You scored! But after THE NIGHT, it is your choice to decide whether or not to tell your secret. But be aware of the outcome when he/she throws a heavy punch (like of Mike Tyson’s) to your faces who accidentally found out your cheating on them. Especially guys, watch out those fists. It hurts. We warn you!

P5 – Ignore commitment. Agree to just have a short, good time together? Yes? Then forget “commitment” or “promise”. It is called a fair game if this rule is much followed by both of you. Commitment is sometimes good but not applied much with love pickup from the bar. If one of you declares to let commitment in, check out your heart and feeling. So it will be like 2-in-1 after all.

P6 – Winner or loser. All players love to beat a game. Like in a soccer or golf game or else, there are always a winner and a loser. No one wants to fail or lose. And the game of love is also the one of risk for being a winner or a loser. Once they find someone very pretty, suave and handsome, they will just mask Mel Gibson’s Braveheart face and jump in the battle field ready to fight (for someone’s heart). Somehow, if they lose and can really admit that, and let her/him go with a winner… that means you have sporting spirit that reminds us on one motto… “Love is also to give”.

P7 – Protection – Let’s me tell you this a bit. This is a BIG and HUGE problem if you miss this rule. Really, it will be a great burden unexpectedly coming into your life, and this will stop you from anything you love to do or anywhere you want to go (unless you don’t want to have kids of your own).

So, apart from these above principles, what’s next is to examine your heart and soul and search for your true feeling… if you are quite a playboy/playgirl, these exactly complete you as a typical player, don’t they? Provided you find some rules missing out of a real you,… correct… you might be fortunate to face a true love, no matter you want it or not, but probably from the bottom of your heart, you know you want to find it one day so badly (don’t you)?

And one another thing you must realize is that this one-night stand type won’t last forever when you get older. It is said that players will stop playing and fooling after discovering their true love and getting married. Or another word, if it is the right time for them, destiny will lead them to a true love and what they can follow is to simply go and feel by heart.

What’s next then? Do you think if there is really a true love at the bar? We don’t try to offend all players as nothing wrong being one of them. We just would like you all to consider what you want out of life… what kind of relationships are you looking for? And whatever to be, accept it as this love thing (both types) is a nature of human beings who need to love and be loved, so everything just goes by a natural instinct. Most importantly, let it in if you consider it right.

Nonetheless, we believe this story will enlighten your heart and soul to take a serious thought on a relationship you are associating with, especially the one from the bar.

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